Happy birthday, dude.
37 fricken’ years old. Crazy! You still feel fifteen half of the time, hell, you still act fifteen three-quarters of the time. You’re just as confused about what you want to be and do when you grow up…. maybe it’s time to face that you’ll never grow out of that? That is, unless you become super-mega amazing at one thing and hit stratospheric heights of success doing it.
You’re doing good though. You’re trying, you know? You’re trying to keep it all together and be all grown up and shit, and I reckon most of the time you pull it off. Most of the time is a pretty good effort, really.
Those other little moments where you fall apart don’t really count as anything other than testament to the fact that you’re a dramatic and emotional individual!
No one can possibly have it together 100% of the time. They just pretend they do, to keep up appearances.
You’ve had the toughest year of your life, to date. There’s no doubt about it. Health issues, your ring being stolen and subsequent legal shit, life….I think this year has been the biggest test of your marriage, but you know what? There will be other hard years too. I think the best thing to remember is, it’s just life.
We have shit in our lives, and we just have to work through it. It’s not just you, it’s everyone.
We all have shit and the only way is through.
Try to be kinder to yourself. You would never speak as harshly to a friend as you speak to yourself in your head. Be a better friend to yourself.
You’ve made some good friends in the last year and you’ve lost some people too. That’s ok. People come and go in life. You know who the important ones are. The ones that fill you with joy.
You need to remember to find solace in your own company also.
Stop filling up all of your time with people. It’s important to be quiet sometimes.
It’s also more important to be kind, than it is to be right.
I think that one of the biggest things you’ve learned this year.
You’ve done some big work on yourself in this past year, but it’s not time to get complacent. You’re a work in progress, my dear. You must be. If you ever stop growing and evolving then it might as well be game over. You haven’t learned everything yet, and you will make 100 more mistakes, put your foot in your mouth again and balls it up along the way.
Just stay open. Remember to be gracious, remember to stop and enjoy everything and not just rush along all the time. You’re at home with your children now so you can be there for them, so remember to do that. Take a breath sometimes and just chill out. I realise chillaxing is fairly against your character, but those quiet, simple moments are the golden ones. The ones you and your children will carry forth in your memories for years to come.
You’ve had a productive year, but the work is not finished. To truly create this space you wish for, you must not tire of the journey. True luck doesn’t really exist and you need to create your own luck. The best luck comes to the hardest workers.
Life is not easy, my friend, but it is wonderful, and wondrous. You have amazing, generous, loving people in your life, and you need to remember that in those maudlin moments. You are loved.
You’ve accomplished a lot in the last 12 months, so concentrate on what you have achieved and not on what you haven’t. Looking back at your last birthday letter, you’ve come a long way emotionally.
You need to lighten up a bit too, I reckon. Don’t take this wrong way but you’re a bit uptight. I’m sure the people closest to you would agree that you could afford to loosen your laces, toots.
Your life is rich.
Your life is wonderful.
Live it with integrity and courage.
All my love,
PS Stop being so bloody bah humbug about your birthday. It’s something to celebrate, for god’s sake, you old tart.